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Some people abuse sex, and they do things their creator never intended for them to do. They play with it as if it’s a cheap toy, showing little or no respect for its powers or valuing the boundaries that God has placed on its use.

Sometimes a spouse smudges the lines that keep sex within the bounds of their commitment to each other. They do not respect the blessing that sex should be in their relationship and so they look outside the marriage for satisfaction.

Wandering spouses often find that sex outside the marriage covenant cannot fully bloom into the blessing that it was meant to be and that it will be when it’s respected and nourished. Even though some people take exception with this statement and tell me that this is not true in their relationship, I must disagree. The essential aspects of trust and commitment just are not there and will interfere with true intimacy.

Consider the ramifications of misusing sex to satisfy lust and animal instincts. The animal kingdom must live by their instincts in order to preserve their species. On the other hand, human beings have a brain that possesses the ability to understand the higher purpose of sex. Humans also have emotions that make them want to establish relationships and build a life together.

In contrast, even with commitment and love to nourish their relationship, no sexual encounter outside of marriage can be more satisfying to a couple than the joy of creating a legacy through building a life together. I attest to this truth after being married for over forty-three years to the same man. Yes, we have been through some difficult times, there were even times when I wasn’t sure we were going to make it, but the good times make it all worth it. Growing old together sure is easier when you have been through thick and thin together.

No relationship is going to be perfect and no one can truthfully say that their lives have always been bliss, but most older couples will say that their relationship is pretty good. The sex may be rare or non-existent by then, but they will likely say that they enjoy their life with each other.

Know this, without the boundaries that protect a healthy and legacy-building relationship, you will not know the joy that comes with living this way. Once you’ve crossed that bridge into a sexual relationship outside of marriage, there is no returning to the person you were before. However, you can make the commitment now to respect sex and the higher purpose for its use.

I welcome your thoughts and comments.

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