Hello Parents and Teens – Part 4
Parents Must Teach Correct Principles
Parents:
Please, if you have been lax in your parental responsibilities or you feel inadequate to fight this battle, do whatever it takes to arm yourselves and your children with better tools to win this war. Whether you like it or not and whether or not you are prepared for it, you and your children have been drawn into this fight by society.
Proper training has to start in the home first, by example and teaching the principles that make us happy. Everyone needs a good understanding about what they are up against.
Each person in society today needs to appreciate the battle we must fight before we and our children can develop the tools we need to be happy and safe from the deep pits and potholes of life. If we do not understand the enemy and the tools he or she uses, then how will we and our children know when there is an assaulted until someone (or the family) becomes a casualty of this war?
Parents, Tweens and Teens:
I know one thing for sure, that we must be as bold as the enemy in presenting alternative lifestyles choices to our children than society gives them. We have to teach them through example and give them a reason to fight such an enticing enemy. The enemy is VERY strong and the consequences are very unpleasant for us and our children if they fall victim. They need to know, as much as possible, how to resist the enemy and how to develop their own armor that protect them from choosing a pathway that leads to unpleasant consequences. They must also understand that such consequences may affect them all their lives.
Teens and Tweens:
What do you want your parents to teach you? What are you will to accept from them? Are you willing to listen to them and appreciate their wisdom and experiences? I know that trusting the wisdom of my parents, even though I disagreed with them, kept me from having experiences I am glad I didn’t have to have and deal with later. I know I am happy today because I listened to them and so I did not make choices that would have caused me great heartache today. I have a lot of gratitude in my heart for them and feel very happy that I listened when I didn’t want to. Wouldn’t it be nice for you to be able to say the same thing when you are older?
My daughter made mistakes in her youth, but she did say “Mom, you did the best you could with me. I was a thrill seeker and was going to do it any way. But one thing I always knew is that you love me and would always be there for me; even when I was giving you such a hard time.” WOW, what more of a compliment can a mother get from her daughter than this. It is also a testament that it helps to listen to your parents so you don’t make all those mistakes you don’t have to make.
Parents:
Never make children feel that they are unacceptable to you, just their behavior. Let them know that you offer them UNCONDITIONAL love. If they know they are loved, then you empower them to come back to their upbringing and feel free to discuss things with you that they may otherwise be afraid to discuss. The last thing you want is for them to get their information elsewhere or become pregnant and try to deal with it on their own. They must never question your love for them, but they need to know what behavior is unacceptable to do in your home. They need to know the lines between right and wrong and only you can teach that to them…even if they won’t listen, they will still know.
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